Core Belief Profile 6
The Loyal Sceptic Elephant
Core Belief Profile 6
The Loyal Sceptic Elephant
Core Belief Profile 6
The Loyal Sceptic Elephant
Role Description
The Loyal Sceptic is a loyal person in that they see themselves as being loyal, dutiful and doing what he or she ought to do. They seek relationships with others or with organisations that can protect them and to which they can respond with loyalty and duty. The Loyal Sceptic focuses on gaining safety and avoiding harm through constant vigilance, questioning of motives and doubting.
The reason that they express loyalty and desire security is due to the assumption that the world is a perilous place and that you simply cannot trust other people. Therefore, the focus of attention is on danger and potential threats that require constant vigilance and scanning of the environment to avoid.
Loyal Sceptics try to obey the the internalised rule and principles that they have learned from childhood. They try to earn the security that they are seeking.
The Loyal Sceptic spends a considerable amount of time preparing for the worst possible disasters, often thinking ahead to the worst-case scenarios and anticipating them. The need for absolute certainty frequently leads to endless planning and considerable procrastination from them.
A Loyal Sceptic has a sense of being better than other people through their affiliations and social identification. For example, ‘I live in a metro city, and a metro cityis better than a rural town, therefore I am better than people in a rural town’.
What could go wrong or be dangerous.
Potential pitfalls, difficulties, incongruities.
Implications, inferences, and hidden meanings.
Being helpless or not in control in the face of danger and harm.
Succumbing to danger or harm.
Getting stuck in doubt and contrary thinking.
Alienating people they depend on by contradicting or opposing them.
Doubting, testing and looking for double messages.
Logical analysis to figure things out.
Playing the devil’s advocate.
Ambivalence towards authority.
Showing strength.
Gaining security by obtaining the goodwill of others, being loyal to others and dedicating themselves to worthy causes.
Likes to compare and contrast; analytical.
Suspicious of the surface image, interested in the underlying content or meaning.
Will look to find other person’s agenda. E.g. Are they being paid for that opinion? Are they angling for a promotion?
Doesn’t want to be pushed; pacing is important; stops and starts are useful.
Modelling is important; doesn’t want to immediately jump in.
May challenge authority; either directly or by deliberately making mistakes out of spite.
Do strive to keep your word. Nothing will help them more than their having a sense that you mean what you say, that you have integrity, and that you can be trusted.
Do only commit to what you know you are capable of and then ensure that you keep all aspects of the commitment. They focus on congruence between what you say and do.
Do make your allegiance clear. In their unconscious mind, the world is split between the good (us) and the bad (them).
Do disclose your self-interest as they like to know what is in it for you.
Do intersperse the positives with negatives when you are communicating with them.
Do establish a clear plan with fall-back positions. The CBP6 does not like surprises. They want security and predictability.
When the CBP6’s considerations are out on the table, this is a good time for action. Acknowledge the mistakes that you make without taking blame for what is not your fault.
Do be straightforward about admitting when you are in trouble. CBP6s understand trouble; after all, it is where they live.
Anxiety
Doubt
Don’t order a CBP6 around. If you want a CBP6 to do something, share your thought processes and give reasons.
Don’t expect to immediately earn trust. It will take a while for them to feel that they can trust you. Let them. It is very important to them to see that you keep all your agreements – particularly the small ones
Don’t engage in win-lose arguments with a CBP6 about something that they have their mind made up over. There is no way that you can change their opinion. It is better to expand the discussion to include alternative ideas and additional people.
Don’t exaggerate. Just tell the story straight. They have a terrifying fear of being conned in some way.
Practise having confidence in other people. When Loyal Skeptics look for ways to trust others, they will find them.
You must find your inner sense of authority because otherwise you overly obey the internalised rules and principles learnt from childhood. Those rules give the security being sought because you cannot be blamed if you do as you were told.
To avoid laying blame, focus on the problem and not on the person.
Don’t be afraid to play the role of devil’s advocate. After all, it is what you do best anyway. You have developed formidable skill at cutting through pretence and exposing what will not work. Show where the problems and pitfalls are.
Learn to give compliments; Loyal Skeptics tend to have a problem with gratitude.
Define your own positive goals and focus on them just as much as on where you can go wrong.
